How working with your felt sense will save your life
Trauma leaves us numb and foreign to our body, and there is no healing without coming home to it. Continue reading How working with your felt sense will save your life
Fearful? Anxious? Use your stress to create beauty using RAIN
It’s much easier to tell a loved one that everything is going to be alright when in fear compared to telling ourselves. Can we ever truly become our own best friend? Continue reading Fearful? Anxious? Use your stress to create beauty using RAIN
Our flaws are superpowers yet not controlled
It’s like my soul has these gorgeous church windows, but I can’t see the colours. By being introspective about my resentments, I’m wiping them one by one. Continue reading Our flaws are superpowers yet not controlled
The Ultimate Secret to Leaving Your Abusers
I spend a long time believing that pity was love. Continue reading The Ultimate Secret to Leaving Your Abusers
The truth revealed to my childhood abusers – their response?
It was a sunny Sunday morning, and I was walking to a busy cafe to tell my parents about my childhood abuse.
I had a month to prepare for this moment, if not a lifetime. Continue reading The truth revealed to my childhood abusers – their response?
Am I in love or in trauma?
Do you find yourself attracting the same kind of partners? Trauma feeds trauma Continue reading Am I in love or in trauma?
Parenting problems? How to heal intergenerational trauma
Oh the irony of parents blaming their children for their outbursts! Unresolved suffering gets passed down in intergenerational trauma and manifests itself in mental health issues, addiction and unhealthy behavioural patterns. Continue reading Parenting problems? How to heal intergenerational trauma
Fight your instincts and love your abusers!
Yarris, wrongfully convicted of murder for 22 years, refused to wish ill on his abusers. I would have become like them, he said. Continue reading Fight your instincts and love your abusers!
Conquering my void inside with awe-inspiring confessions
‘How to deal with the void inside/ the need to run away’.My friend crumbled up the note I wrote for our topic meeting today. I held my breath.The room was small today, the bad weather keeping away everyone but the … Continue reading Conquering my void inside with awe-inspiring confessions
Stuck in the Dark Night of the Soul
Long before mental health became a hot topic, desperate souls were said to be going through the dark night of the soul. Continue reading Stuck in the Dark Night of the Soul
Somatic experiencing changed my life (or how I learned to be at home in my body)
It’s 7:30 at night, and this all too familiar unease sets in again. A restlessness, a feeling that whatever it is, I’m not doing what I’m supposed to be doing. Yet I stay slouched on the couch. And that’s where … Continue reading Somatic experiencing changed my life (or how I learned to be at home in my body)
I’m so terrified of being a bad mother, I’d rather not be a mum at all sometimes
I was watching a mother-daughter duo on the tube today, how carefully the mum would adjust her daughter’s woollen hat, and started welling up with tears. She was clutching her little one’s hand tightly even sat down, as if she … Continue reading I’m so terrified of being a bad mother, I’d rather not be a mum at all sometimes
The healing effects of pointless, tangible art – stop procrastinating, create your own therapy!
Hobbies should be something that allow you to lose yourself in the activity, something that brings you pure joy and has no other other purpose entirely. Continue reading The healing effects of pointless, tangible art – stop procrastinating, create your own therapy!
How to never practise self-abandonment again
Children of dysfunctional homes often end up repeating the same relationship patterns they learned early on, first of all with themselves. This is what feels safe and known; our nervous system and brain is still stuck in fight-or-flight mode and … Continue reading How to never practise self-abandonment again
Depression taught me to live again
Last summer, my 2-year depression came to a head. I took myself to A&E and refused to leave, knowing that if I did, I would be all out of options with my suicidal depression. Previously, therapists had sent me away, … Continue reading Depression taught me to live again
Gratitude is an action – or how to do a gratitude journal properly
A friend of mine recently shared in my fellowship her discovery: gratitude is an action, not a feeling. Denominating it as a mere emotion degrades gratitude, and it changed the way I write out my daily (well, weekly) gratitude journal. … Continue reading Gratitude is an action – or how to do a gratitude journal properly
Emotional sobriety – the holy grail of any recovery
In my own journey of processing childhood trauma and addiction I’ve come across the term ‘emotional sobriety‘ multiple times, and its poetry struck me. In all the meetings I’ve been to recently, I have not met a single addict with … Continue reading Emotional sobriety – the holy grail of any recovery
How to stop outsourcing your wellbeing
At the fragile 26 year mark of my life, I finally found what adulthood truly means to me (whether I want it to or not): Stop outsourcing your personal responsibilities and wellbeing That means my career is no longer my … Continue reading How to stop outsourcing your wellbeing
Taking Christmas off people (or a good idea with bad timing)
For starters, I am working today. In a hospitality job no less, so people can not be avoided (not five guys but I liked the photo I took there after work). I made sure to get a job in time … Continue reading Taking Christmas off people (or a good idea with bad timing)