Why do I have to heal my trauma?

As much as I am obsessed with trauma work, I’m aware that it’s a trendy hot topic right now.
Trauma is everywhere, and its label gives a welcome pathway to understanding our symptoms.
But why are we all so obsessed with healing our trauma, and do we need to?
Can we ever truly heal in the first place?

โ€œTraumatized people chronically feel
unsafe inside their bodies. (…)
They learn to hide from their selves.โ€
– Bessel van der Kolk

Healing past trauma often if not always involves facing our pain, and can prove painful.
Some might prefer to run from this, hiding in addiction, denial or other coping mechanisms.
But the effects of untreated suffering will always bleed out.
And the longer we wait, the more our feelings will have festered.
So either we work the trauma, or the trauma will work us.

Recovery does not constitute a complete absence of thoughts or feelings associated with the traumatic event, but rather it is the ability to place the event in proper perspective and successfully rise above the event so that it is no longer in control of your emotions or your life.ย “
– Dr. Susan Spicer

Furthermore, it’s worth talking about the impact our trauma has on the people around us.
Often, abusers use the pain that was inflicted on them as a reason for the suffering they’ve inflicted on others.
Trauma can account for a litany of symptoms that affects our relationships, especially on dependents such as children. This could be a short emotional fuse, anger management problems or lack of patience.
So, do we owe the people in our lives to address our trauma?

“It takes 9 times longer to heal pain than inflict it.”
– my therapist to a very stunned me

The sooner we start, the better a chance we stand.
That being said, it’s never too late to reap the fruits of addressing our trauma.
However, it’s important to be realistic. It takes time and patience to work on our core beliefs.
Personally, I believe even just acknowledging that you have trauma to heal is the first step towards healing.
Apprehension and refusal to address our pain are inevitable stumbling blocks!
Have you ever asked yourself if trauma work is worth it?

3 thoughts on “Why do I have to heal my trauma?

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  1. We heal because in this life we are not meant to suffer endlessly, this 8s part of the illusion. We are to feel love, oneness and connectedness within our being and with all of creation that surrounds us. Ferling one’s own magic and power ignites the endless love and possibilities available to all of us. It is our birthright, to return to the wild and free souls we came in as, a remembering. The ultimate connection with self๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

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    1. Totally agree! Sometimes we can stand in our own way to happiness by clinging to old and familiar patterns even if they hurt us! Nothing new ever happens inside our comfort zone so a jump out is good! Thanks for your lovely comment ๐Ÿ™‚

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      1. Yes sister, I say we can’t receive new blessings when we are still holding yesterday’s baggage. This is essentially ego work, the ego wants to keep us safe and small….familiar. It’s our job to challenge these thoughts patterns and mindset loops to uncover our souls, our authentic being.

        T his self healing journey has been so rewarding innumerable and priceless ways. I’ve become my own hero and love myself totally. Here’s to the journey, may you continue to heal my friend ๐Ÿ™ โค ๐Ÿ˜Š

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