It's been a rough couple of weeks, and yet I'm working my hardest to be happy. How to focus on what we can control instead of what happens to us?
When everything goes wrong, I choose to smile
What am I scared of ending?
I still mourn being sober even 18 months in. Refusing closure, what else am I refusing of letting go off?
Do I have a pet problem?
There's 16 animals in my flat right now. As long as they're happy, I don't have a problem. Right??
How to heal from codependency
Codepenency is easy to diagnose in others but nearly impossible within ourselves. How can we become aware and heal unhealthy patterns?
Do I hate myself because I can’t be angry at others?
Growing up, I was not allowed a safe outlet for my feelings. They were dangerous to my caretakers, and thus to me.
On knowing what you want
Trauma can teach us that making decisions is dangerous. When the possible consequences are life-changing, how do we move?
The harder it is outside, the more we work inside
Mental health struggles can leave us feeling helpless, even with self-care. How come I am lost again after years of experience?
The interconnectivity of traumas through time
Trauma comes and goes in waves, ever reminding us of remains unhealed. Recently, this has been in the linking of similar pains.
Happiness is dangerous (or £100 flower pots)
We know that desire is insidious, and that inner happiness doesn't come from things. But does desire ever make us happy, or just not unhappy?
Suffering is ignorance, and ignorance is suffering
Today was the first day of a one week retreat on the precious human life with my favourite lama, and we discussed the origin of suffering (spoiler, its ignorance).
