Once you become trauma-informed and understand your parents, while well-meaning, were fighting their own battles, you start seeing the need for reparenting everywhere.
‘Healing’ should not be our entire personality
As trauma survivors, the process of healing can overpower us, taking over our lives. So healing should be the most important thing in my life, right?
On knowing what you want
Trauma can teach us that making decisions is dangerous. When the possible consequences are life-changing, how do we move?
Feeling lonely surrounded by friends
It's a strange time to feel lonely with lockdown easing. And yet, my heart aches for connection and validation.
The interconnectivity of traumas through time
Trauma comes and goes in waves, ever reminding us of remains unhealed. Recently, this has been in the linking of similar pains.
Why do I have to heal my trauma?
Trauma is a trendy topic, but why are we all so obsessed with healing our trauma, and do we truly need to?
Is your past a reason or excuse for your present?
I am terrified of using my trauma as an excuse for my current behaviour. How acknowledgment of insecurities equates to making excuses in my head, I don't know!
The impatience of healing from trauma
Trauma can feel very debilitating, removing agency and control from us. So when the waiting on feeling better is out of our hands too, we might just lose it a little.
Can you be vulnerable without being a victim?
How does overcome reluctance to let down walls, and what's wrong with being a victim anyway?
Think you never experienced trauma? Think again!
"I was acting as if I had been traumatised, but I hadn't. My parents were loving." So what happened here?