What does unhealed trauma look like?
When I was still in the midst of it, I thought trauma could never be healed.
But now I can see how trauma is not a life sentence! Continue reading What does unhealed trauma look like?
Tag: reparenting
Addicted to love: Dependency in relationships
Can I see others for who they truly are, or for who I want them to be?
Too often we equate dependency with love. Continue reading Addicted to love: Dependency in relationships
Shame, guilt and fear: my favourite cocktail
Today has been a rollercoaster, but I didn’t think I would be feeling like this tonight. Instead, I am feeling ashamed, guilty and fearful. Continue reading Shame, guilt and fear: my favourite cocktail
Why we hate people depending on us – or boundaries 101
It’s a primal itch pushing us away from others: the reluctance of being relied upon. Continue reading Why we hate people depending on us – or boundaries 101
My secret tip to DEACTIVATE your ego!
No matter our self-growth, once our ego gets triggered it’s hard to see the bigger picture. Here’s a trick to quickly disengage! Continue reading My secret tip to DEACTIVATE your ego!
Emotional incest: when children raise their parents
By my mother’s own accord, I raised her. The mother-daughter dynamic became reversed, but why? Continue reading Emotional incest: when children raise their parents
Not doing it for praise (and yet…)
This month, I spearheaded the campaign to remove a predator from my social group.
Not only triggering, I am disheartened at how hard I’ve had to fight for this. Continue reading Not doing it for praise (and yet…)
Reacting vs responding – how to keep your side of the street clean
Whatever is going on in my life is not an excuse for how I’m feeling, and especially not for how I’m acting.
But how to stop reacting and respond instead? Continue reading Reacting vs responding – how to keep your side of the street clean
One self-imposed crisis after another
My friend looks relieved as he recounts his drama-filled days.“I used to say to my wife ‘we cannot have things too nice because they always go wrong‘.I do not think like that anymore. My days are quiet now, peaceful.”I too … Continue reading One self-imposed crisis after another
Desire to parent means wanting to BE parented
As a childless gal, I wouldn’t dare to make this statement myself.
Do people have children when they want to be unconditionally loved? Continue reading Desire to parent means wanting to BE parented
