I can’t wait to be patient

Our world doesn’t lend itself to patience.
Social media and fast food deliver quick dopamine hits, Amazon Prime delivers anything within a day, and Google answers any question I could possibly have.
It’s not surprising then that I expect immediate results for everything else, most of all healing.
How does one cultivate patience, and more importantly: how does one cope in the meantime?

“Patience is power.
Patience is not an absence of action;
rather it is “timing”
it waits on the right time to act,
for the right principles
and in the right way.

– Fulton J. Sheen

It’s easy to think of patience as ‘staying put’, waiting in the shadows for our turn.
I’ve written about Peck’s understanding that delaying gratification can avoid suffering.
When we jump the gun, we might act on unprocessed, hot emotions. This hurts us first.
It’s a skill to keep our cards guarded, our lips sealed and our plans secret.
Taking the time to assess the situation, we are much more likely to succeed.

“Why is patience so important?”
“Because it makes us pay attention.”

– Paulo Coelho

A year ago, I mused that patience and distraction are synonymous.
I found it easiest to be patient when I had other things on my mind.
Waiting for a reply for instance is best done when our thoughts are otherwise preoccupied.
But even then, isn’t a part of us still engaged? Waiting for a ping, eyeing our screen?
When we make ourselves wait, we are more present.
Instead of just listening to our impulse, we take into account everything around us.

“I am extraordinarily patient,
provided I get my own way in the end.”
– Margaret Thatcher

Part of what makes patience so hard is the uncertainty.
We are itching to make sure we get our dues, to make sure we are heard and seen.
I forget that people and circumstances are beyond me once I have given it my best.
Worrying about something is not going to change the outcome.
And maybe patience is finding peace with the fact that sometime things are out of our control.

7 thoughts on “I can’t wait to be patient

  1. I feel you on this my dear. I’ve been on my healing journey for 10 years now. We are continually healing from the pain of the human experience, tweaking it until the end. Always learning, growing and expanding. A phrase that used to drive me bonkers in the beginning was “time takes time”. Ugh🤪 yet now that I’ve discovered what really works and delivers results in an accelerated way, can see real lasting shifts. Giving yourself the gift of grace is the glue that helps patience blossom and bloom💗🙏😊

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    1. This is so wise and helpful, thank you so much! The gift of grace, I will take it to heart and not rush myself in my healing journey. I try to remember that compassion starts first and foremost with myself! So glad to hear you are seeing results, very inspiring! x

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