On letting go of codependency to live with fear and love.
Boundaries don’t exist if there are no consequences
They say boundaries are a sign we care about the other, because we chose to be tough instead of abandon the relationship. So what if someone doesn't respect them?
When everything goes wrong, I choose to smile
It's been a rough couple of weeks, and yet I'm working my hardest to be happy. How to focus on what we can control instead of what happens to us?
On knowing what you want
Trauma can teach us that making decisions is dangerous. When the possible consequences are life-changing, how do we move?
Feeling lonely surrounded by friends
It's a strange time to feel lonely with lockdown easing. And yet, my heart aches for connection and validation.
Happiness is dangerous (or £100 flower pots)
We know that desire is insidious, and that inner happiness doesn't come from things. But does desire ever make us happy, or just not unhappy?
The material search for intimacy
How do you create intimacy: does it come naturally to you, do you have to make time for it or do you fear it? And can you find it within yourself?
I can’t wait to be patient
Our world doesn't lend itself to patience. With social media, Amazon Prime and Google, it's not surprising I expect immediate results for everything else, most of all healing.
How I’ve lost all of my friends in a year and couldn’t be happier
With school and work, we get used to hanging out with who we mesh with best. But when we change, is it fair to expect others to change too?
And then I said no
This week, while dealing with loss and guilt, self-care took on a different form for me. A tattoo that was waiting to be finished had to make way for me to get some sleep.