I did not expect to cry watching Paris Hilton’s new documentary “This Is Paris”.
I’m a sucker for these celeb vanity projects.
From humble beginnings to their way of dealing with fame, I’ve watched Justin Bieber’s, the Jonas Brothers and Taylor Swift’s films (the last one was really good too!).
But “This Is Paris” did not just touch nostalgia, but also unexpectedly trauma.
“Trauma gets stored in the body –
it never really goes anywhere.”
– Gabor Mate, quoted by Nicki Hilton Rothschild
Paris suffers from horrific nightmares and insomnia, just like I used to.
Paris has PTSD and gets panic attacks, just like me.
Of course, there is the difference of many millions between our bank accounts too.
I’m not going into detail of her exact trauma, you can watch the documentary for that.
But her readiness to be honest and raw made me reflect on our readiness to judge others, but empathise with our excuses that are known to us after all.
Instead of changing our idea of Paris in hindsight,
why not reflect that towards the Paris’ of today.
I was just a child watching The Simple Life around 2005, not aware of the persona Paris was portraying. But I’m not a child anymore.
We all love to make fun of the Kardashians, of Britney Spears’ conservatorship, or of Instagram models. We judge celebrities whose nudes get leaked or who end up in rehab again.
But if we got to watch a well-produced documentary of their lives, would we still laugh?
“What is insanity but repeating the same behaviour over and over again but expecting different results?”
– Common AA saying, also quoted by Nicki Hilton Rothschild
Reading through Twitter, many are not that easy to forgive Paris.
She was an ardent Trump supporter, and used visiting natural disaster victims as a photo op for her perfumes.
Everyone has encountered some kind of trauma, and from experience I found the mental and emotional abuse much harder to process than the sexual ones.
Even “just” neglect can leave crater-wide scars.
We shouldn’t pretend that celebrities are saints, but we should understand they are deeply flawed.
Just like we are after all, but we do not have millions of eyes on us.
If you liked this post, you might enjoy this analysis of Shane Dawson and blaming his trauma for abusive behaviour.