How working with your felt sense will save your life
Trauma leaves us numb and foreign to our body, and there is no healing without coming home to it. Continue reading How working with your felt sense will save your life
Tag: cptsd
Our flaws are superpowers yet not controlled
It’s like my soul has these gorgeous church windows, but I can’t see the colours. By being introspective about my resentments, I’m wiping them one by one. Continue reading Our flaws are superpowers yet not controlled
The Ultimate Secret to Leaving Your Abusers
I spend a long time believing that pity was love. Continue reading The Ultimate Secret to Leaving Your Abusers
Parenting problems? How to heal intergenerational trauma
Oh the irony of parents blaming their children for their outbursts! Unresolved suffering gets passed down in intergenerational trauma and manifests itself in mental health issues, addiction and unhealthy behavioural patterns. Continue reading Parenting problems? How to heal intergenerational trauma
Fight your instincts and love your abusers!
Yarris, wrongfully convicted of murder for 22 years, refused to wish ill on his abusers. I would have become like them, he said. Continue reading Fight your instincts and love your abusers!
There’s nothing more frustrating than trying to relax
I thrive in chaos. It has been a childhood companion to me, always waiting around the corner. Continue reading There’s nothing more frustrating than trying to relax
I’m so terrified of being a bad mother, I’d rather not be a mum at all sometimes
I was watching a mother-daughter duo on the tube today, how carefully the mum would adjust her daughter’s woollen hat, and started welling up with tears. She was clutching her little one’s hand tightly even sat down, as if she … Continue reading I’m so terrified of being a bad mother, I’d rather not be a mum at all sometimes
How to never practise self-abandonment again
Children of dysfunctional homes often end up repeating the same relationship patterns they learned early on, first of all with themselves. This is what feels safe and known; our nervous system and brain is still stuck in fight-or-flight mode and … Continue reading How to never practise self-abandonment again
Nobody abused me more than I ever did (or how I became unstuck from my trauma)
In my never ending journey to heal childhood abuse, I’ve had to face a painful fact: I am the only one keeping my trauma alive. Now that I am an adult, nobody but me is responsible for how I feel … Continue reading Nobody abused me more than I ever did (or how I became unstuck from my trauma)
Gratitude is an action – or how to do a gratitude journal properly
A friend of mine recently shared in my fellowship her discovery: gratitude is an action, not a feeling. Denominating it as a mere emotion degrades gratitude, and it changed the way I write out my daily (well, weekly) gratitude journal. … Continue reading Gratitude is an action – or how to do a gratitude journal properly