Growing up, I was not allowed a safe outlet for my feelings. They were dangerous to my caretakers, and thus to me.
Do I hate myself because I can’t be angry at others?
Feeling lonely surrounded by friends
It's a strange time to feel lonely with lockdown easing. And yet, my heart aches for connection and validation.
The harder it is outside, the more we work inside
Mental health struggles can leave us feeling helpless, even with self-care. How come I am lost again after years of experience?
Is your past a reason or excuse for your present?
I am terrified of using my trauma as an excuse for my current behaviour. How acknowledgment of insecurities equates to making excuses in my head, I don't know!
The impatience of healing from trauma
Trauma can feel very debilitating, removing agency and control from us. So when the waiting on feeling better is out of our hands too, we might just lose it a little.
Can you be vulnerable without being a victim?
How does overcome reluctance to let down walls, and what's wrong with being a victim anyway?
Perpetual fight response and anger management issues
While stuck in traffic last Sunday, my friends and I realised that anger is nothing more than being stuck perpetually in our fight response. Why do some things always get the better of us?
How movement can heal your trauma
In the mind-body school of trauma, movement is a staple to recovery. Often we associate bodily sensations with danger, so we disassociate. But gentle movement therapy can help!
What does unhealed trauma look like?
When I was still in the midst of it, I thought trauma could never be healed. But now I can see how trauma is not a life sentence!
What if we DID choose our parents?
I was thinking about the cycle of suffering we go through, blaming our behaviour on our childhood. Can a little thought experiment free us from resentment?
