Being grateful to our parents has nothing to do with the fact we crave their approval to an unhealthy degree. Are you scared of their rejection? Continue reading Why you NEED a break from your parents
Trauma leaves us numb and foreign to our body, and there is no healing without coming home to it. Continue reading How working with your felt sense will save your life
It’s like my soul has these gorgeous church windows, but I can’t see the colours. By being introspective about my resentments, I’m wiping them one by one. Continue reading Our flaws are superpowers yet not controlled
I spend a long time believing that pity was love. Continue reading The Ultimate Secret to Leaving Your Abusers
It was a sunny Sunday morning, and I was walking to a busy cafe to tell my parents about my childhood abuse.
I had a month to prepare for this moment, if not a lifetime. Continue reading The truth revealed to my childhood abusers – their response?
Do you find yourself attracting the same kind of partners? Trauma feeds trauma Continue reading Am I in love or in trauma?
Oh the irony of parents blaming their children for their outbursts! Unresolved suffering gets passed down in intergenerational trauma and manifests itself in mental health issues, addiction and unhealthy behavioural patterns. Continue reading Parenting problems? How to heal intergenerational trauma
Yarris, wrongfully convicted of murder for 22 years, refused to wish ill on his abusers. I would have become like them, he said. Continue reading Fight your instincts and love your abusers!
I thrive in chaos. It has been a childhood companion to me, always waiting around the corner. Continue reading There’s nothing more frustrating than trying to relax
It’s 7:30 at night, and this all too familiar unease sets in again. A restlessness, a feeling that whatever it is, I’m not doing what I’m supposed to be doing. Yet I stay slouched on the couch. And that’s where … Continue reading Somatic experiencing changed my life (or how I learned to be at home in my body)