With school and work, we get used to hanging out with who we mesh with best. But when we change, is it fair to expect others to change too? Continue reading How I’ve lost all of my friends in a year and couldn’t be happier
This week, while dealing with loss and guilt, self-care took on a different form for me. A tattoo that was waiting to be finished had to make way for me to get some sleep. Continue reading And then I said no
Today has been a rollercoaster, but I didn’t think I would be feeling like this tonight. Instead, I am feeling ashamed, guilty and fearful. Continue reading Shame, guilt and fear: my favourite cocktail
There’s a lot of lists with good virtues, tricks that get you far in life or psychological growth secrets. However, there is nothing as simple and life-changing as this. Continue reading These 2 letters are your greatest superpower
This is the mantra of shame researcher Brené Brown. What is the difference between getting it right and being right, and what does it have to do with shame? Continue reading Here to GET it right, not BE right
I used to think my creativity comes from suffering and drugs. Access to this magical land was given to me only when earned. Not anymore! Continue reading How to find your deep well of creativity and knowing
I had registered the yelling of the cats long before I actually woke up. An incessant, high-pitched sound of three cats, all gathered on my balcony. Continue reading Chronic guilt and the fox in the morning
Identity politics are thriving right now. But the fear of the other and national pride identity are stronger than mere ethics. Continue reading Victim and victimiser: Why guilt doesn’t work in activism
Is it bad that I cannot distinguish them? I grew up with them being interchangeable. I think myself in love but really, I feel too guilty to leave them. Continue reading Love and guilt are neighbours in me.
We all have goals, and we all procrastinate. I like to blame perfectionism on holding me back. What is this mental barrier we put in front of ourselves? Continue reading ‘Perfectionism is like holding my breath.’
