There is a lot of uncertainty in my life, requiring me to sit with the feeling. Can I learn to be comfortable with the lack of validation and not feel guilty for not justifying my existence?
The art of prioritising
Roles and responsibilities are piling up, and so does the guilt associated with them. When it is impossible to do everything, what do we do first?
How I’ve lost all of my friends in a year and couldn’t be happier
With school and work, we get used to hanging out with who we mesh with best. But when we change, is it fair to expect others to change too?
And then I said no
This week, while dealing with loss and guilt, self-care took on a different form for me. A tattoo that was waiting to be finished had to make way for me to get some sleep.
Shame, guilt and fear: my favourite cocktail
Today has been a rollercoaster, but I didn't think I would be feeling like this tonight. Instead, I am feeling ashamed, guilty and fearful.
These 2 letters are your greatest superpower
There's a lot of lists with good virtues, tricks that get you far in life or psychological growth secrets. However, there is nothing as simple and life-changing as this.
Here to GET it right, not BE right
This is the mantra of shame researcher Brené Brown. What is the difference between getting it right and being right, and what does it have to do with shame?
How to find your deep well of creativity and knowing
I used to think my creativity comes from suffering and drugs. Access to this magical land was given to me only when earned. Not anymore!
Chronic guilt and the fox in the morning
I had registered the yelling of the cats long before I actually woke up. An incessant, high-pitched sound of three cats, all gathered on my balcony.
Victim and victimiser: Why guilt doesn’t work in activism
Identity politics are thriving right now. But the fear of the other and national pride identity are stronger than mere ethics.