When you join a 12-step fellowship, you’re looking for help to quit your drug of choice. Surprisingly, it was when sponsoring others that I learned boundaries, self-care and true patience.
While stuck in traffic last Sunday, my friends and I realised that anger is nothing more than being stuck perpetually in our fight response. Why do some things always get the better of us?
With school and work, we get used to hanging out with who we mesh with best. But when we change, is it fair to expect others to change too?
This week, while dealing with loss and guilt, self-care took on a different form for me. A tattoo that was waiting to be finished had to make way for me to get some sleep.
I entered the 12-steps fellowships hoping to get rid of my cravings.
And I did!
There’s a lot of lists with good virtues, tricks that get you far in life or psychological growth secrets. However, there is nothing as simple and life-changing as this.
It’s a primal itch pushing us away from others: the reluctance of being relied upon.
Whatever is going on in my life is not an excuse for how I’m feeling, and especially not for how I’m acting.
But how to stop reacting and respond instead?
How come I managed to completely jump to conclusions THREE TIMES this week, each tragic and comical time resulting in me crying and waves of sadness?
It’s like my soul has these gorgeous church windows, but I can’t see the colours. By being introspective about my resentments, I’m wiping them one by one.