I entered the 12-steps fellowships hoping to get rid of my cravings. And I did!
This surprising lesson from 12-step fellowships
Is it routine or is it habit?
This year has been habit-breaking and habit-inducing at the same time. Not only did I beat a decade old addiction, I have also built new routines of healthy self-soothing.
One self-imposed crisis after another
My friend looks relieved as he recounts his drama-filled days."I used to say to my wife 'we cannot have things too nice because they always go wrong'.I do not think like that anymore. My days are quiet now, peaceful."I too identify with his words. Did I love the drama, or did the drama love me?... Continue Reading →
First Magic, then Medicine, finally Madness
This is a saying in the addict community to describe our using. The poetic nature of it strikes me, and I can't help relate the saying to all.
Self-image and unachieved dreams
We all know that our internal dialogue defines our self-image. But how are we harming ourselves all the while thinking we are doing good?
Addiction and dating apps: the fast and intense
Has there has ever been this much supply and demand on dating apps? I wonder if we should be more careful in giving our heart's attention away.
The illusion of being uniquely broken
Surely we are suffering because something wrong happened to us that was completely unique, unfair and unavoidable. Or is it?
Apologising to my first love (and crying for hours)
I reached out to someone I hadn't spoken to in over 3 years to apologise for the hurt that I had caused them in our relationship. Scary, right?
Giving love but receiving none: the struggle of the lonely
"I give so much love to everyone" said someone on this Abraham Hicks talk, "yet receive so little back. How do I stop myself from being resentful?"
Why addicts insist it’s physical
There are more and more addictions. Where is the boundary between having a hard time letting something go, and having a physical dependency on it?
Reparent Your Soul 