And then I said no

This week, while dealing with loss and guilt, self-care took on a different form for me. A tattoo that was waiting to be finished had to make way for me to get some sleep.

Love and guilt are neighbours in me.

Is it bad that I cannot distinguish them? I grew up with them being interchangeable. I think myself in love but really, I feel too guilty to leave them.

Conquering my void inside with awe-inspiring confessions

‘How to deal with the void inside/ the need to run away’.My friend crumbled up the note I wrote for our topic meeting today. I held my breath.The room was small today, the bad weather keeping away everyone but the regulars.I didn’t mind, I needed to hear from people who had been travelling this road…

Judge people by how they act to people apologising to them

“A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person.” – Dave Barry I am a stubborn gal. Blame it on me being a taurus, but I hold grudges. Treat me badly and show the slightest tint of remorse, and we’re good. But refuse to acknowledge my pain, and we’re pretty…

We Are Both: Parenting and Apocalypse Now

Show me someone not terrified of becoming their parents. The only way most people learn to cope with their childhoods is to vilify their parents, in a childlike ‘I-wasn’t-given-what-I-am-owed’ kind of way. Reparenting yourself often becomes a race against time to break the cycle, process your pain and heal your family – before you start…

The body is a portal-cage #poem

The body is a tribe And i a loyal follower Let’s worship our elders So to tease our children The body is a portal-cage And i a little bird Lay me out some nuts So i may grow some This body is all mine And i its humble shadow Lie and we’ll know it So…

From nuclear families to Kardashian clans

Let’s look at facts here: the Western hetero 2-child family model moved into cities with the industrial revolution, and families have seemingly been shrinking since with growing divorce rates. Leaving childrearing to just two people is irresponsible and unrealistic. TV and social media will then have a greater impact as educators. Now, it seems successful…