Why we refuse to surrender fear

If fear was meant to warn us of danger, anxiety is fear gone mad. Biology might explain trauma response, but why do we emotionally hold on to fear?

The material search for intimacy

How do you create intimacy: does it come naturally to you, do you have to make time for it or do you fear it? And can you find it within yourself?

What if we DID choose our parents?

I was thinking about the cycle of suffering we go through, blaming our behaviour on our childhood. Can a little thought experiment free us from resentment?

Balance: The final part to processing pain

After delaying gratification, accepting responsibility and the importance of truth, we will read about the final ingredient to processing pain according to Peck: balance!

One self-imposed crisis after another

My friend looks relieved as he recounts his drama-filled days.“I used to say to my wife ‘we cannot have things too nice because they always go wrong‘.I do not think like that anymore. My days are quiet now, peaceful.”I too identify with his words. Did I love the drama, or did the drama love me?…

Failure leads to deeper lessons for me

Why do we forget lessons we have learned already? Why am I intend on making the same mistakes again? A reflection on the knowing that comes with failure.