A post I wrote was deleted, and somehow I am glad it did.
Boundaries don’t exist if there are no consequences
They say boundaries are a sign we care about the other, because we chose to be tough instead of abandon the relationship. So what if someone doesn't respect them?
Do you need reparenting?
Once you become trauma-informed and understand your parents, while well-meaning, were fighting their own battles, you start seeing the need for reparenting everywhere.
How to suffer
n a capitalist world that rewards the mechanical status quo, it is hard work to suffer from disabilities or mental health gracefully. But since we can't help doing it anyway, what is the best way to suffer nowadays?
This is how you start loving yourself
Like many others, I have been struggling with low self-esteem for most of my life. There is pressure to deny this part of ourselves on social media, but is total positivity even possible?
Allowing time for rest
How can we stop the constant chatter of judgment, of self-doubt and worry, when we must take time off to rest?
‘Healing’ should not be our entire personality
As trauma survivors, the process of healing can overpower us, taking over our lives. So healing should be the most important thing in my life, right?
Finding comfort in uncertainty
There is a lot of uncertainty in my life, requiring me to sit with the feeling. Can I learn to be comfortable with the lack of validation and not feel guilty for not justifying my existence?
Owning up to what may not be my “fault”
It may not be entirely just my doing, but is it still wiser to own up and take responsibility? What is better for my future and for my mental health?
When everything goes wrong, I choose to smile
It's been a rough couple of weeks, and yet I'm working my hardest to be happy. How to focus on what we can control instead of what happens to us?