"I was acting as if I had been traumatised, but I hadn't. My parents were loving." So what happened here?
Think you never experienced trauma? Think again!
The art of prioritising
Roles and responsibilities are piling up, and so does the guilt associated with them. When it is impossible to do everything, what do we do first?
Desire to parent means wanting to BE parented
As a childless gal, I wouldn't dare to make this statement myself. Do people have children when they want to be unconditionally loved?
Have you grown into independence?
All humans start life as helpless children, and not all grow up to be independent adults. Stepping into adulthood requires embracing risk.
Raising kids? Avoid this ONE THING
It's very simple advice, and most parents go the other way. Raising kids has a million rules, but there is only one to follow to assure a loving upbringing.
Want to kill your family? How to deal with anger in lockdown
Do you feel stuck between loving and hating the people you're self-isolating with? Anger and resentment are natural emotions, now more than ever.
Recovering from growing up too quickly
Were you the mature child in school? With traumatic childhood experiences, one learns to grow up far too quickly.
Parenting problems? How to heal intergenerational trauma
Oh the irony of parents blaming their children for their outbursts!
I’m so terrified of being a bad mother, I’d rather not be a mum at all sometimes
I was watching a mother-daughter duo on the tube today, how carefully the mum would adjust her daughter's woollen hat, and started welling up with tears. She was clutching her little one's hand tightly even sat down, as if she was terrified of loosing her amid the rush hour madness. I sympathised, thinking "if I... Continue Reading →
We Are Both: Parenting and Apocalypse Now
Show me someone not terrified of becoming their parents. The only way most people learn to cope with their childhoods is to vilify their parents, in a childlike 'I-wasn't-given-what-I-am-owed' kind of way. Reparenting yourself often becomes a race against time to break the cycle, process your pain and heal your family - before you start... Continue Reading →
