They say boundaries are a sign we care about the other, because we chose to be tough instead of abandon the relationship. So what if someone doesn't respect them?
All humans start life as helpless children, and not all grow up to be independent adults. Stepping into adulthood requires embracing risk.
It's very simple advice, and most parents go the other way. Raising kids has a million rules, but there is only one to follow to assure a loving upbringing.
I was watching a mother-daughter duo on the tube today, how carefully the mum would adjust her daughter's woollen hat, and started welling up with tears. She was clutching her little one's hand tightly even sat down, as if she was terrified of loosing her amid the rush hour madness. I sympathised, thinking "if I... Continue Reading →
Show me someone not terrified of becoming their parents. The only way most people learn to cope with their childhoods is to vilify their parents, in a childlike 'I-wasn't-given-what-I-am-owed' kind of way. Reparenting yourself often becomes a race against time to break the cycle, process your pain and heal your family - before you start... Continue Reading →
I am part of a generation that feels abandoned. Picture a child, left alone all day with other children, and then left alone all alone. Resenting the parents it was gifted, because they were no parents at all.And thus was their role; I was born to call my mother by her first name. Now, when... Continue Reading →