We all suffer with the obsession of new year’s resolutions.
The pressure is high, and if we mess up, do we have to wait til next year to start again?
White knuckling it seldom helps, and I should know!
Last January I decided to quit, and relapsed a few days later, only to succeed in February.
You don’t need to identify as an alcoholic to put the bottle down for a month.
Promise, sober life is not as boring or intimidating as you first might think!
Here’s some tips inspired by @milligooch on how to quit!
- Find some substitute drinks you actually enjoy
Mocktails and alcoholfree beer usually just reminds us of what we would have before.
Many in recovery love their cola a bit too much, otherwise flavoured water or soda, iced or herbal tea might become your new favourite!
2. Educate yourself on why you’re doing this!
Watch documentaries such as Risky Drinking or fiction movies such as The Girl On The Train.
Read self-help books such as , The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray, Recovery by Russel Brand Quit Like A Woman by Holly Whitaker.
They will remind you why you’re doing this and give you hope.
3. Surround yourself with other sober people
There’s lots of Facebook groups where people share their stories (they’re not all sad, promise!) as well as sober podcasts such as Love Sober. Taking the stigma and fear out of sober life will not only open up the space for tips but also enable connection and community which we may looked for with alcohol!
4. No more shame!
If you’re taking a break from alcohol, you should feel proud in your decision. Having an honest conversation with your family and friends might alleviate the weight on more people than you might think. You’re out of your comfort zone, and writing down your experiences can help.
You’re likely to experience mood swings. Allow yourself to cry and feel it all.
5. Treat yourself!
You’ll see just how much money you save. What a relief not to wake up after a night out and realising we spent way more than we had planned. It’s fun to calculate how much you usually spent on alcohol and plan on spending your saved treasure on self-care. I am getting myself a keyboard to pick up playing piano again!
If you are embarking on this journey, you’re in for a treat.
Being out in nature as well as getting back into creative hobbies can also help.
Obvious tips are yoga, meditation and breathing exercises, as well as writing down your reasons why you quit (or recording yourself saying them) and going through those when in doubt.
In any case, you’ve got this! I also recommend 12 steps fellowships as they helped me to quit.
If you got any questions, I’d be happy to help in the comments!